being a newlywed isn't always ice cream & sprinkles. you have your good days & your bad days. if you're anything like me & M, you have weeks/months of bliss, then from nowhere there's a few days of tension. could be caused by
that time of the month. or sometimes we're just too tired. often it comes from petty bickering that leaves you feeling stupid & wish you could take back whatever you said.
but enough of my rant. i wanted to compile a list of the good & bad of being a newlywed.
everything is from our personal experiences only. these aren't meant to offend anyone.
1) you can't go to target & stock up on seasonal clothes, shoes &/or large amounts of everything else. as a newly married couple, we have to find out what works best for use, budget wise that is. before we got married, i'd allot a certain amount of money each month to spend on myself. it usually consisted of a fairly large amount. i love splurging on myself. what can i say? but now we share a bank account. which means i have to consider him, just like he also considers me.
2) constantly trying to please a toddler. M is the pickiest eater. he's very similar to a toddler, expect he doesn't like mac n' cheese, mashed potatoes or pastas. he lives off a diet of meat, bread & butter. so imagine my challenge when i'm preparing meals. it's taken me nearly nine months, but i think i almost have it down to a science. when we grocery shop, it's mostly all about him because i'll eat anything. he's getting better about trying new things. he now likes rice dishes & even salads! he's pickiness really challenges me to think outside the box. unfortunately if i don't have meals planned, we usually end up eating pizza or tacos :/
3) learning to say "no" sucks. there are times when M doesn't want to take pictures or help me cook dinner. & there are plenty of times when i don't want to watch "justified" or go for a boat ride. when we were newly-newly married, saying "yes" was easy. pleasing each other was second nature. but the truth is, things wear off & we don't always want to say "yes". it was hard to say "no" at first. it didn't feel natural & the look of defeat on our faces sucked. but we've learned that their are things we each don't always enjoy doing & we respect that. yet, we don't always say "no" because we want each other to know that we still want to make one another happy.
4) sharing a bed isn't easy. this may seem trivial but yes, sharing a bed with someone has been an obstacle for me. throughout the proposal naturally i fantasized about sleeping in the same bed with M. the act was foreign to the both of us & honestly it made me blush. but when the time came to share a bed together, i realized i hated it. he loves to snuggle & i discovered how uncomfortable it was to be touched while trying to go to sleep. some nights aren't so bad & we can touch feet or hold hands but that's as far as it goes. i'm a no snuggle girl :( i know, it's sad because he's a great snuggler.
1) we are constantly learning together. true! it's fun to try new things with each other. like grocery shopping. haha, it's actually become a favorite routine of ours. we usually go after church, when we are the hungriest {don't they say that's the worst time to go grocery shopping?}. we've also learned a lot about each other. like how he likes to shower multiple times a day & how he loves tv time. i go multiple days without showering & grew up without much tv watching. i've learned that i actually enjoy watching tv & have favorite shows now. M's learned that there's a thing called a water bill & is working on taken fewer hot showers. learning is fun & i hope there's always something for me to learn from or learn about him :)
2) you will always have your biggest cheerleader by your side. it never ceases to amaze me how much M supports me in anything i do. often i ponder about what i want to do with my life & he always tells me to do whatever i want -- whatever makes me the happiest. sometimes i just want to be his wife, like i want that to be my only job. because he deserves it. he works so hard for us & our future that i just want to be a housewife for him. too bad i'm the least domestic female on the planet. so i'll continue working & return to school this fall. but it goes both ways, i support him & cheer him on during all the trials of life.
3) people still gush over our wedding pictures. when we tell people that we got married last summer, they immediately congratulate us. the details of the day are talked about & then they ask about the honeymoon. does anyone know when we aren't considered newlyweds anymore? i've read stories of those who have been married over a year & people are still calling them newlyweds. i'm not mad about it. i love sharing our wedding. which reminds, i haven't shared that day with y'all yet.
4) sharing a bed ;) yes, this was in the bad list, but it also deserves a spot on the good list. being intimate is a huge perk of marriage.
probably my longest post to date. being a newlywed is exciting & i love the feeling of the unknown when it's related to this topic. because we don't know what the future will hold. but i do know that M & i will be figuring it out together -- still experiencing the bad but also the good.
xoxo
-L
